No matter how perfect you think your childhood was, there were things you needed as a child that your mother couldn’t give you.
They may have been subtle & hard to detect. Or blatantly obvious things that you’re painfully aware of.
Either way, you will have a 𝙈𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙒𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙 — we all do.
𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀
When you’re unaware of this subconscious wound, you will try to get from your partners what you didn’t get from your mum.
You may loop over & over trying to prove your worth to women, exhausting & belittling yourself in…
I’d been single on & off for over 3 years. I felt so ready to find my forever person, I would have taken a magic potion to attract my dream partner if it was available!
There were so many hit-n-miss almost-relationships. I’d tried what all the dating experts advised but I was just not finding who I was looking for… & it was getting hard to keep dusting myself off to try again.
Now, I am sooo loving being with my new partner! He is everything I dreamed a partner could be. Not only does he meet every one of…
Many of us are born into a culture where shining our brilliance is demonised. We’re taught from a young age not to be a show off, not to speak highly of ourselves & not to be overly confident.
Right from the beginning, we learn to hide our gifts & talk down about ourselves. This sets us on a path towards low self-esteem & self-worth, which our culture reinforces with phrases like:
Nobody likes a show off
Don’t think so highly of yourself
Don’t be selfish
You should put others first
It’s echoed in messaging all around us & keeps us…
Being in a relationship used to be a very anxious experience for me. I was full of insecurities & always had an underlying worry that my partner might change their mind about being with me.
Any pause in our communication created a surge of fear for me. Had I said something to upset them? Maybe they had gone off me? What if they’d met someone else?
I needed constant reassurance that I was loved.
This is known as 𝘼𝙣𝙭𝙞𝙤𝙪𝙨 𝘼𝙩𝙩𝙖𝙘𝙝𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 & is categorised by feeling anxious & needing your partner close whenever you experience relationship stress.
The opposite of this…
I teach highly sensitive women to feel secure, trust themselves & to go out & change the world.