No matter how perfect you think your childhood was, there were things you needed as a child that your mother couldnโ€™t give you.

They may have been subtle & hard to detect. Or blatantly obvious things that youโ€™re painfully aware of.

Either way, you will have a ๐™ˆ๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง ๐™’๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฃ๐™™ โ€” we all do.

๐—›๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜†๐˜€ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฝ๐˜€

When youโ€™re unaware of this subconscious wound, you will try to get from your partners what you didnโ€™t get from your mum.

You may loop over & over trying to prove your worth to women, exhausting & belittling yourself inโ€ฆ

Iโ€™d been single on & off for over 3 years. I felt so ready to find my forever person, I would have taken a magic potion to attract my dream partner if it was available!

There were so many hit-n-miss almost-relationships. Iโ€™d tried what all the dating experts advised but I was just not finding who I was looking forโ€ฆ & it was getting hard to keep dusting myself off to try again.

Now, I am sooo loving being with my new partner! He is everything I dreamed a partner could be. Not only does he meet every one ofโ€ฆ

Many of us are born into a culture where shining our brilliance is demonised. Weโ€™re taught from a young age not to be a show off, not to speak highly of ourselves & not to be overly confident.

Right from the beginning, we learn to hide our gifts & talk down about ourselves. This sets us on a path towards low self-esteem & self-worth, which our culture reinforces with phrases like:

Nobody likes a show off

Donโ€™t think so highly of yourself

Donโ€™t be selfish

You should put others first

Itโ€™s echoed in messaging all around us & keeps usโ€ฆ

Being in a relationship used to be a very anxious experience for me. I was full of insecurities & always had an underlying worry that my partner might change their mind about being with me.

Any pause in our communication created a surge of fear for me. Had I said something to upset them? Maybe they had gone off me? What if theyโ€™d met someone else?

I needed constant reassurance that I was loved.

This is known as ๐˜ผ๐™ฃ๐™ญ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ช๐™จ ๐˜ผ๐™ฉ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™˜๐™๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ & is categorised by feeling anxious & needing your partner close whenever you experience relationship stress.

The opposite of thisโ€ฆ

Natalie Ford

I teach highly sensitive women to feel secure, trust themselves & to go out & change the world.

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